Anonymous asked: I'm new to tumblr and enjoy your blog. Any other great bpd blogs??
From the blogs I know of and follow i would say: the-woken-one.
Two other blogs that I like alot would be: her-name-iz-alice AND schmannda.
I dont think that very last one focuses on BPD but I like what she posts sometimes. These aren’t necessarily “support” blogs like mine but I think they are really good <3 If you look at my blog, Ive even reblogged some of their stuff before.
So yeah, a shout out to them. Love your blogs guys <3 lol
Anonymous asked: 2. i lost him and now i feel like i have no one, theres no one else like him, he fills a gap that no one else can. i feel so stupid that he will never think that of me, because i did this (again) he's not talking to me. i don't want to live. the thing is, he said that i could talk to him. i tried like 3 times and got ignored and it drove me more crazy thinking i needed to talk to him about it before things got worse. i would have felt better and not acted on it :(((( distractions are useless now
I believe there’s hope in every situation. It’ll be okay <3 I understand you’re hurting but if this person decides to not talk to you anymore, sooner or later you will have to let him go or the pain is going to destroy you. We always feel like we need SOMEBODY and there’s nothing wrong with that. However, there’s one thing that should be above that and that’s happiness with yourself. One needs to find happiness within themselves and love themselves before they can find happiness with someone else and love someone else. That’s the first thing that needs to happen. I always say that the key to success in any relationship is communication. If you still want him there, that’s what needs to happen. You need to talk him through whatever is going on with you so he can understand. The better he understands, the better he can help you. But he has to be willing to do this and I really hope he is. If you really want to work this relationship out then dont give up. But he has to be willing to fix it too and thats what you need to find out from him.
Anonymous asked: i fucked up in the same way i did a couple months ago, and also a year ago. after it happened again i didnt think i could put myself through that again. i started making book full of things i should do instead if i reach that point. but i completely ignored it and did shit anyway without thinking! i was reacting to something i didn't think would happen so soon, so i wasn't prepared for it. my friend doesn't understand :(
Well i dont know the details so it may be hard for me to help. But I would say that you need to find a constant reminder of what you want to accomplish. Like you say you’re not reacting the way you want to react and that’s messing with your relationship with others. If writing that book helped in the first place, try looking through it every day as a reminder OR find some other reminder of what you want to accomplish instead of reacting irrationally. We all make mistakes <3 That’s okay. If you don’t want to react the way you did, you have to try to keep coming up with new ideas and techniques you can use to fix it. If one technique doesn’t work (like that book for example) then don’t give up. Try to think of something else that could help. Don’t stop until you find something that works for you. <3 And as for your friend that doesn’t understand: I know it can be hard for someone with BPD but the road to success in ANY relationship is through communication. Sit your friend down and just explain it to them the best you can. Tell them you really want them to understand and a good friend will try to understand. If they still dont, then dont get upset. Let them ask questions about the situation so that they CAN understand.
If you have BPD, countless waves of different emotions are washing over you sometimes all at once and sometimes one after the other. Actions are easier to control than emotions. For me personally its almost impossible for me to STOP emotions from rushing over me because of how fast they come on. You probably feel the same way. Thats okay <3 You can’t always control how you FEEL, but that doesn’t mean that those feelings have to control YOU. “We cant stop them from coming but we can CHOOSE which ones to surf.”
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